August 5, 2004

  • "Don't hate the playa, hate the game"


    I'm sure all of you have heard that saying before.  Not for nothing, but I think it's a crock of shit.  The underlying sentiment behind this phrase is a justification of one's inexplicable failure to take responsibility for their own actions. 


    Fact of the matter is...if you're single, you're single by choice.  Saying that you haven't met the "right person" yet is bullshit.  Whether you're too superficial to consider dating someone other than a supermodel or you're too materialistic to date someone who isn't making bank or you're too commitment-phobic to settle down, the only person keeping you from being with someone is yourself.


    Don't think that I'm only referring to guys now either.  Girls play the "game" just as much as guys do.  They bitch about guys being players and there not being any "nice guys" but I've seen plenty of "nice guys" get shot down for reasons the girl herself probably doesn't know.  Just recently a friend of mine was dumped by his gf whom he seriously thought was "the one".  This guy has dated/hooked up with plenty of girls in the past and although people may conclude that his track record is due to his own doing, that really isn't the case. 


    Girls aren't the only ones that want real relationships these days.  Guys do too, only more and more girls are too preoccupied with playing "the game".  With the number of people we come across on a weekly basis (whether it be online or real life), I find it hard to believe that all the single people out there haven't met "the right one". 


    If everyone keeps playing "the game" in search of this PERFECT mate who they think will suddenly turn their world upside down and cause them to forsake their active social lives for companionship, there's going to be a lot of lonely people down the line. 


    After all, in this "game" that a lot of people are playing, there are no winners... 


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    P.S. What's with all the hype over ipods?  Free or not, I really don't think they're all that great.  There are much better mp3 players out there that are much smaller and don't cost an arm and leg to replace the battery later on.  Assuming people use ipods for their commute to work or working out, I would think that you'd want something as small as possible.  Sony and Rio make mp3 players the size of a lipstick and they use AAA batteries which are easier to replace than an ipod battery.  Do you really need 20-40gigs of music to carry around?

Comments (26)

  • "if you're single, you're single by choice.  Saying that you haven't met the "right person" yet is bullshit" 

    That makes no sense.  I'm single by choice BECAUSE I haven't met the right person yet.  If I meet the right girl, I won't be single, right?

    As for the phrase itself, I think you're taking it too literally. I don't think anyone, except dumb niggers, actually sits there and uses "don't hate the playa, hate the game" as a legitimate argument for sleeping around.

  • oh and dont hat the play hate the game i thhnk that was used when i was back in hs. at our age, u cant blame the other person but you shouldn blame yourself either. it didnt work out for a reason.

  • the first paragraph is awesome!!...w00t!

    free ipod...i want it cuz it's free..hehe...would i actually pay for one?...probably not...kinda like sneaking into a movie that you know you wouldn't pay for normally

  • i dont agree with this one AT ALL. there may be someone out there that thinks the world of you, but if you feel that that person does not posesss most of the qualities u want in that ONE person that youre gonna spend the rest of your life with then u are not gonna be with that person just for the hell of it.

    if i met this person that i thought was the ONE, i would go above and beyond to make that person happy. i have not met that person which is the reason why i am single.

    Posted 8/5/2004 at 2:15 PM by ceciyh79 - delete - block user (sorry I accidentally deleted your comment)

  • i thought that phrase meant 'don't be mad cuz i'm sheksier than yOU.'

  • i don't hate the game, i hate the playa.

    why can't "i haven't met the right person" be one's choice?  she/he's single by choice cuz she/he hasn't met the right person.  comprede?

    they probably want it cuz it's FREE.

  • those little mp3 players carry only like, kilobytes worth of music.  i have my entire cd/mp3 library on my ipod... that translates to 16 gigs.  granted, there are other 20-40 gb players out there, but the ipod is seriously the easiest and user friendly one out there.

  • did u watch the show on UPN??

  • Thanks Dave. Oh well, life goes on, besides...Im better now.

  • im not sure if this saying has anything to do with one being single or not cuz it is mostly used for players who dont want to be committed.........some people are single because they arent willing to give what they want to receive.  but that comes and goes with each individual person they come across. sometimes u just feel more towards one person than the next and u give more.  a lot of times people dont hook up cuz one party just doesnt feel that pull for the other. of course u choose to be single...but its not always cuz ur playing games....u just dont want to waste your time anymore.

  • ok.. you dont' have to want one but i want one so go to the link and make a non winning bid FOR ME.

  • first off, staying single because you haven't found "the one" is perfectly acceptable. Would you want people to stop meeting new people and dating because they found someone, anyone, but not the right one for them?

    oh and ipods aren't that great. Battery life sucks and after 2-3 years it's obsolete. Technology can suck sometimes.

  • ipods are pretty~~~~   anyways, ref. to your entry... i found "the ONE" =)

  • With ya brotha, I think it is mostly selfishness that keeps us single. And that isn't such a bad thing. To be in  relationship ya gotta be willing to give alot of yourself. I am presently single but was quite involved for 7+ years, lived together most of the time. Have dated a few chicks but....to proceed to the next level takes somthing else..It does take THE RIGHT other person, but it mosty takes yourself to make it happen to put in the effort. I personally think you can " have a boyfriend/girlfriend" with anyone that is willing to also put in the effort.

    Expassion on this idea, I do not beleive in the "one" person. I beleive that there are many many many..for everyone.

  • there's a sony mp3 player i want.....20gb and 36 hr battery life.

  • i dont know you but i love your entrys. shits so interesting to read.

    what you say kinda makes sense but it doesnt also. like im sure everyone can find someone.but if they hook up with this person just to not be single it really isnt worth being in a relationship.  and yea people now a days are too worried about finding the perfect someone that they neglect to see ones that are not perfect but good enough. cause is there really a perfect one that exists now adays everyone is flawed in someway. if you cant see this and exxpect someone to be perfect your pretty naive.

  • "the only person keeping you from being with someone is yourself."

    i disagree.  i tried to be a couple...but he wouldn't submit.  the only person keeping me from being single was him.  :o P

  • i mean, the only person keeping me single...was him. 

  • You made some great points in this blog until you bagged on the ipod.  The ipod is fantastic.  I keep a ton of songs in there for every taste or mood.  Its great.

  • i just want one cuz its free but otherwise wouldn't even bother! I agree with you on the love thing. I believe that the person who you will end up with should bring out the best in you not define you.. something like that.. but you summed it up alot better.

  • single by choice? heeeelllooo??.....spoken like a true NON-single person...

  • I'm not looking for "the one". I'm not looking at all. No worries. I don't think I'm destined to be single anyway.

  • hmmm.......................... =) hi*

  • Guys need to grow up and girls need to stop shooting down 'nice guys' w/ bs excuses like "oh he's too nice for me."  Bullocks.

  • i agree that most people are single by choice. i'm in guy-hating mode right now and recovering from a relationship. however, some people i know who are obese, have a fat chance of getting a date (haha).

  • damn dave, just because you're in coupledom, you don't gotta shit on us single people... blah!

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