August 27, 2004

  • Sex and the City


    Sue_shi wrote an entry last week asking whether you tell the truth or not when asked how many partners you've had.  Supposedly, there's a "Rule of 3" (as referred to in American Pie) where you subtract 3 from the number given by a guy (since they tend to inflate the number) and add 3 to the number given by a girl (since they tend to lie and downgrade the number). 


    The rationale behind this is that guys want to come off more manly and experienced whereas girls want to minimize giving off the impression that they're easy or a slut.  When the "Rule of 3" is put into effect, it typically occurs during a conversation of opposite sexes, which is understandable I guess since you want to portray a certain image during the courting/flirting process. 


    Im curious though...assuming both guys AND girls lie about their numbers, do they lie when talking to the SAME sex too?


    My guess is that guys will typically tell the truth when talking to other guys, but girls will ALWAYS lie regardless of the other party's gender.  Some girls even go as far as claiming they're virgins when they're really not.   


    Why do I think girls lie so much?  It's because of the competitive nature they have against each other.  From makeup to carrying around designer handbags to the outfits they wear, it's all a competition.  They look at other girls and want to be perceived better than them.  A girl can be the biggest slut in the world but she'll never admit it, not even to her girlfriends out of fear she'll be looked at in a condescending manner or worse yet, that word gets out of her promiscuity.


    1) When someone of the opposite sex asks you about your #, do you tell the truth?


    2) When someone of the same sex asks you about your #, do you tell the truth? (I don't think guys even ASK each other such a stupid question.)



    On the topic of sex, It's been my observation that people in LA seem to be a lot more sexually active/promiscuous than here in NY.  If I had to guess the approximate # of partners..



    • NY guys - around 10
    • NY girls - under 6
    • LA guys - over 20
    • LA girls - over 6

    I'd ask you to state your location and the # to see how it fits in my guesstimate but I already know everyone would lie anyways so why not state whether you think it's accurate or not.


    The reasoning behind my guesses is that I think NY people tend to be more relationship oriented and casual sex/dating isn't as prevalent as it is in LA.  Plus, NY girls seem to think more highly of themselves and make the guys work harder for it.


    EDIT: Before a bunch of you get your panties in a bunch, the above guesstimate wasn't a diss on NY or LA girls, but merely an observation.  The number of partners one's had isn't necessarily reflective of that person's character.

Comments (30)

  • Dude... you so know that nobody will answer this post honestly.. =p B

  • i'm think i'm at 10, not alot.

  • so ny girls are harder and LA girls are easier, huh...how sad...LA girls are a bunch of  insecure, golddiggin skanks, huh....how sad....

  • you should have just written an entry about what I suggested earlier.

  • interesting pt ... i thought guys would be the one to lie more about how many girls they really had ... at least to the ones they weren't close to cuz you really can't lie to your close friends about that can you?  they'd find out in a heartbeat.  haha

  • chicago - 1

  • haah l.a ppl are more sexually active cuz #1 we're more attractive and have more attractive ppl thus attracting more attractive ppl therefore more sex,,,

    and i dont know what kinda women u know, but women i know tell the truth,,,,

    if a man tells his friend "yeah i fucked that girl", my girls will go up to that guy and say "no man, u got it the other way around,,I FUCKED U!:...hahaha

  • from what i hear, theres a lack of korean women (asian) women there,, period! 3 to 1 ratio i believe someone told me,,,so even the fat fug girls got at least 3 guys after them hence giving them big heads and attitude problems,,(thats not thinking higher of themselves,,that's just ugly stupidity)so dont compain u guys have stuck up girls,, they' aint worth more, u guys made them that way,,,

    ,,,and if a nyc guy does have a half way decent gf, he takes her everywhere cuz he aint taking NO chance of leaving her by herslf or to go out without him cuz another guy might try and "goe shyuh" her,,

  • uhm I tell the truth to everyone. However, I have observed that many asian girls lie about how they're a virgin when they've had more partners than little ole me. Now white girls.... they tell the truth. Back in high school I would hear all those girls talking about their experiences. They still do... it's great fun and no one is really trying to hide something.

    asian girls are just too image conscious.

    oh and have a great weekend too! It was fun debating with you!

  • how in the world did you come to this assumption?  i'm not competitive, i could care less who sleeps with who.  who freakin cares?  it's not my business.. and my girls and i tell each other the truth.  what does it matter what the stupid number is, if you've done it and have any bit of self-dignity than you shouldn't be ashamed.. and if you feel the need to hide it from your close girlfriend to avoid her judgement, then maybe you'd have to rethink your friends.  how stupid.

  • Choiiiii... should I find that one of those 10 was my baby sister, I WILL be forced to kill you on sight!!!... (+)... BANG!!!.. ~(o_O)~ B

  • L.A. and 0

    And the comment above. I don't know, I mean, I'm asian and I'm telling the truth about being a virgin. Now white girls. Wow... my experience with them has been the reverse of what blahbyul has been thru. I guess it depends on region and stuff like that.

  • jeez thx for the diss on la girls

  • gomi....well, if i find out one of the girls was your baby sister, it's news to me.

  • yeah and like i said the first time, if you feel the need to hide it from your close girlfriend to avoid her judgement (which refers to the preoccupation with your image) than you both don't deserve each other's friendship.

    and regarding your "girls want to maintain an image better than other girls".. that is a big fat generalization.  that's like saying, "guys are competitive assholes who always think they're right."  if so many girls were so concerned about how they looked to others, i doubt anybody would be friends.  who wants a cat fight every 5 seconds?

    i just really don't like that sentence you said, about girls 'ALWAYS' lying about their magic number, regardless of the party's gender while guys tell the truth to other guys.  from my experience, guys don't even talk about things like that...

  • dude, if NY guys are at 'around 10' and NY girls are at 'under 6'... who the fuck are the boys fucking??? shouldn't the numbers be equivalent???

  • DC. zero.

  • damnit! look at my comment on your entry before this one..i commented on the wrong one!

  • I have had 3....so minus 3 that makes none..I am holding out till marriage..I am a virgin

  • fresno, cali- 1

  • People who lie about their partners all should get skewered in their eyeballs and fried over a boiling lake of lava.  They're a disgrace to humanity. 

    As for myself, I have proudly (it could be any number.. it's still proudly) fucked 3 guys and shamely fucked 3. 

    So.. hm.. 3 + 3 makes 6.  I'm from atlanta. 

    And the shamed three, it was when I was so young and did it for the wrong reasons, which is why it's shameful.. but I won't lie about it.  And it was only a few times..

    One is an ftf who I do everytime i break up with a long-term boyfriend. 

    whereas I boinked two guys over and over and over and over and OVER AND OVER again (not simultaneously, though that would be tantalizing). 

    *sigh*  as long as people trivialize sex, the longer people will feel shameful, especially asian girls.  Get the fuck over it.  The sex gets A LOT better hence life becomes GRAND... and so does your confidence and all that good shit. 

    amen. 

  • 1. yup
    2. yup

  • i wouldn't lie about it but I don't think it's everyones business.  if i'm sleeping with you (guys) and you ask I tell you the truth, i trust that you are too but maybe I'm too trusting.  and if your a girl, well girls talk about everything and they are honest with eachother so I'll tell you the truth. 

    Here's a Shocker, UTAH: lets just say I think I'm ment to be a guy and in past relationships I've been know to be somewhat of a nimpfo and I hear I'm  good at what I do! 

  • i dont think girls lie cuz of competition.. i think it's simply that we're worried about what people will think of us if we say the "wrong" number.  i mean, it's so easy for us to be perceived as a slut ya know?

  • i'm 21 and i've only had 1 lover. but i'm a bit of a prude and believe in having sex only in long-term, committed relationships. i don't lie about my # to men or women. i'm proud of it.

  • Fatty!!! I love these presumptions. BUT I don't think you should distinguish people's sexual experiences based on black and white demographics. I think you should observe culture, morality, metropolitan area v. farmed boonievilles, etc.

    I am definitely an LA person -- immigrated grew up in that whole Ktown area, got my citizenship, etc. I'm a proud Angelena, too. I love this place cuz of the different cultures and mosh of diversity, but it seems like many people haven't welcomed the same ideas that I have and for some stranger reason, I've never really understood or fit the stereotypes of "LA people."

    Anyway, as you may know, I'm 26. Partner (intercourse) = 1

    are you gonna add 3? heehee.

    "representin' westsyyyyde yo!" Um. Yes.

  • you should ask them to state their ages too. makes a difference!

  • totally agree with the rule of 3rds. ;)

    but what i want to know, is what is an acceptable number? 3? 5? 10? 17?

  • Since I'm faceless as well as nameless to just about anyone who doesn't know me well enough to figure out who I am from my writing, or has known me long enough to remember my anecdotes, I'll answer your questions (direct and indirect), honestly.

    1) No, cause I don't think that I need to let people, who haven't known me long enough, come to certain assumptions based on first impressions. I might tell a close female friend the truth once we're beyond that whole "impression" thing and I've established a certain level of trust and friendship. But that has not yet come to pass.

    2) Generally, yes, since the only time I get that kind of question is when my buddies and I are all drunk and we're close enough that it doesn't really matter what the numbers are. Impressions be damned cause they'd know me well enough to not pass judgement. We'll still be boys.

    State: Cali, but not LA. And to be honest, my numbers are way up there, if not completely off your chart. Among the boys, I've got a cute nickname. It's "slut", although my ways have changed in recent years. So it's "the man formerly known as slut", now.

  • hehehe, seems like a diss to LA to me! quite interesting

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