August 16, 2007
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Live and let live?
After reading the comments and feedback regarding yesterday's entry, it seems that seeing a friend with someone who doesn't meet your approval is a common occurrence. As a followup to yesterday, I pose the following questions:
1) What if you've told your friend or they already know, yet they choose to dismiss your warnings? Let them be?
2) Flipside: If your friend told you something negative about your significant other/fiance, how much value would their opinion actually have? Would it make you treat your friend differently?
One of the most common reasons I've read for people not wanting to intervene is because it will change not only the relationship you have with your friend, but also the person you're warning them about (imagine if you knew both parties involved?).
Sometimes it's easy for people to say what they would do in a hypothetical situation, but when the situation actually arises, they end up acting differently. It's much easier to give advice than to take it, isn't it?
Comments (5)
much much easier... but in the end.. is it your approval that the person in question really needs?? i've always learned that it's best to mind your own business.
1. if they choose to dismiss the warnings, then it must not mean as much to them as it does to you? if they already know, then there's really no reason to tell them again...
2. if someone told me something negative about my bf, i would take it very seriously, depending on what it is. i value what my friends have to say and they know me best..i would address the situation with my significant other and hear his side of the story and make my judgement from there.
without knowing what the issue is, its kinda hard to say what you would do. did this person cheat on their significant other? then yeah of course you would tell them! do you not like this person cause he owed you a 100 bucks a year ago and never paid you back and you think he's not reliable? then thats not really a big deal.
i'm not the type of person that'll hold feelings in like that. if i kno something or dont like whatever it is about them, i'd tell them but just once. it shouldnt change ur relationship wit ur friend. they're handlin it immaturely if they resent u for it. just tell them whats up but that u'll be there for them in the end no matter what happens.
if u told them already, u did ur duty as a friend... some lessons need to be learned the hard way.
=P back!!!!!!!
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