October 12, 2004

  • Being thankful for what you have 


    This past weekend I was over at the house of a friend I hadn't seen in a long time.  She's now married and has a 13 month old son.  Normally she's an elementary school teacher but after the birth of her son, she's stayed home for the past year to take care of him while her husband worked.


    They live in a newly built townhouse in Fort Lee, NJ with 3 huge bedrooms, walk-in closet, huge kitchen, outside deck, two car driveway and garage, fireplace, lower den, 4 bathrooms, etc.  The place cost around $560,000 but their parents chipped in and paid 60% of the cost, so they only had to take out a mortgage on the balance which still came out to $1200 a month plus $900 in property tax.


    My friend went on to tell me that her younger brother (22 years old) recently moved into the townhouse next door which cost $675,000 and the parents helped pay for his house too.  Not to mention, they also have a sister who recently got married and the parents helped pay for her place as well.


    As happy as I was for my friend, I couldn't help but realize how big an effect parents' contribution makes to their children's lives later on.


    If my friend's parents didn't chip in for their place, there would be no way they could afford it.


    I think a lot of people these days take for granted the support they receive from their parents.  It may not be as excessive as having your parents buy you a home but when your family has money, it definitely makes your life a lot easier.  Just because your parents don't spoil you doesn't mean you don't have it easy.  I guess that's what perpetuates the structure in society and the uneven distribution of wealth.


    For example, as you may know I work fulltime and go to lawschool at nights.  Believe me, I don't work because I want to but because I have to.  Now if lawschool wasn't competitive enough already, there are a lot of students in my evening classes who don't work at all and simply take evening classes so they can do better than the students who are working.  These students all come from pretty well off families...this one girl in one of my classes is a big dumbass but her father is the CEO of some big corporation.  That means she pretty much can buy her way through life and through education and she won't have to worry about finding a job later because I'm sure she'll have her hookups.


    Hmm...sounds a lot like the life of George Bush doesn't it? 


    Anyways, I don't really have much of a point in this entry but that you shouldn't take your situation for granted.  Nothing irks me more than hearing someone bitch about how horrible their life is, while driving around in a nice car, living in a nice house, etc.  I just want to take that silver spoon in your mouth and shove it down your throat!  


    Ok, I admit, I'm a very bitter person...


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    Oh, and since I'm being bitter anyways, WTF is up with people on the subway/bus letting their damn cellphones ring like crazy before actually picking it up?!  Like I really give a shit that you have some gay ass custom ringtone?  OoOoH! You're so cool! I just wanna shove the stupid phone up your ass!


    Speaking of cellphones, why are people so obsessed with how cool their phone is or what features it has? To me, if the phone is compact and I can make clear phonecalls, that's good enough for me.  I don't have a camera built in, or a mini-mp3 player or bluetooth technology (whatever the fuck that is).  I find it hilarious that people easily spend $500+ on a stupid cellphone.  What's funnier is when they end up losing it! haha fuckers!


    Ok, I'm going to try and go relax now.../rant for the day.

Comments (34)

  • I have way too many friends like that who don't even work but are living in condos and driving cars that their parents give them. For nearly 2 years now (since graduating) they haven't worked. Now that's a bit too much. I get bitter too... however, I know I'm spoiled to an extent but I'm so thankful for anything my parents can do for me.

  • try hard not to be bitter. don't let it get the best of you.

    coming from humble beginnings drives me. i need to work, not only for myself but for my family as well.

    failure is not an option.

  • Speaking of silver spoons, I know a girl who was eating ice cream and tripped while she had the spoon in her mouth. The tip of it dug into the roof of her mouth where the soft part starts.  Ughh.  Anyway, living a thankful life is awesome.  I heard that it's healthy for you too (in all ways)

  • you're such an angry and bitter man.

  • i live at home...as much as i am dying to move out, i am thankful that i live at home.  if i didn't i dont think i would have any money saved up.  (granted i should have more) but you will always want more.  some people are just born into more fortunate lives.

    when i was younger, i used to say to my parents i wish i had rich parents.  but i realized how much that must have hurt them every single time i said that. 

  • i broke mine...hehehe...so i have a cheapy phone now.  i totally agree with your first rant about the support of our parents, and sometimes how we might not really appreciate/notice.  lately i've realized how lucky i've been and it mkaes me sad i didn't xome to this realization years ago!

  • Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah... holy moly dude... care for some "cheeze" to go with that "whine"? Just kidding. Yeah, I hate phuggers that have richie-rich parents, whom bail them out, giving them everything I don't have... and YES... I am definitely a bitter, jealous hater.

  • dont be bitter to the point where you're busy pitying yourself. It doesn't seem that way, but bitterness can do that to you..

  • haha, this entry was funny.

  • wow~ you're actually "bitching" today... hahahaha that's pretty funny oppa. 

    that is awesome that the parents bought more than half of the place your friend is living at.... u know my situation oppa... putting aside my g35 for my wedding and life afterwards... =(   i'm so tempted to dip into my savings for a new car these days. 

    u can't help but to be mad at the situation when yuo've worked so hard for everything that you've got and had up until hthis point. you should pat yourself on the back for your accomplishments oppa!

  • Very true, we all need to count our blessings before we bitch.

  • ok.. time to switch to decaf.. but i have to agree with the cell phone.. i cellphone should only be a cell phone.. not a mp3 player/digi camera/camcorder/web browser/azz wiper

    and also people will never be satisfied with what they have.. i think its in everyone to want the things the dont have and take the things they do have for granted

  • this sounds like a choi entry

  • i think some people have been spoiled beyond belief and there is nothing that will get them to be thankful.  however, i do believe that for some people, its just immaturity.  you grow to appreciate what you have, even if you didnt have much, like me.  my parents were still able to buy me a cello, clothes, computers, games, pay for all my private lessons, etc etc etc.  i didnt so much appreciate it then as i do now. 

  • GOOOD RANT.....damn.....i was about to buy that $500 phone today too...now i have to rethink it...DAMN You!!!!!

  • shit tell me about those ppl who have wealthy parents.  my ex's parents was goin to buy him a condo up to 1/2 million but the dumbass never really got around to it.  i'm bitter rite along wit u, haha

  • oh yeah he was only 24 yrs old when they were gonna buy him the condo

  • You said it, Phat!  Those people with parents contributing have it much easier.  I will admit that I admire their parents for investing in their children's future.  Many parents hold on to every penny so they can "leave" it to their children when they pass away.  Most of the money they "leave" to them go to income tax then inheritance tax.

  • hey dave... you're so funny sometimes...

  • btw.. cheer up!!

  • hey, bitter is okay. i know that it drives me to be better than those people who don't appreciate what they have. and laughing when they realize that they can't make it in the real world is fun too. :)

    i just don't get how people can spend soo much money on their car or cellphone or clothes (though i can be guilty too but to the point of excess).. especially if they don't do any good with their money or time.

  • i love your rants =) especially this: I don't have a camera built in, or a mini-mp3 player or bluetooth technology (whatever the fuck that is). 

    my cell phone is one of the old nokia models =) got it for free when i signed up with a service.. .. and what the hell is bluetooth technology anyways?!?

  • someone needs a timeout ... woosa!

  • loved this entry... agreed with everything you said totally

  • everyone has their own set of problems.  don't be bitter, you're only hurting yourself.  its a waste of time.  =)

  • Yeah sometimes I'm a little bitter too when I look at those parents that give so much more to their kids making their life so much easier.  But then I think about those who are even less fortunate than me.  At least my parents poor as they were, came to the U.S. and because of that I have opportunities to make a better life for myself.  There are still a lot of people who weren't as fortunate.  So no matter how bad you have it, there are always some people who look at you and envy what you have.

    I'm a big techie geek.  I love having new toys with cool functions.  But I do agree that its stupid to pay money for a cell phone though.  I've always gotten my phones for free.

  • yep. that's life.

    school + working full time is a friggin bitch.

    good luck w/ your studies

  • good good; pretty much what we all... err most of us believe/live/do etc... in nice compact words

    a5

  • man,  you should be grateful for what you have.  instead of sitting there and moaning about what others have and you don't.    just be thankful that you even have the opportunity to make it as far as you did.  now, excuse me while i drive away in my bmw that my mommy bought me.

  • ooh, that's a good one. from now on, when people piss me off, i'm gonna call 'em Geroge Bush. that'll fix 'em.
    so ... all of these spoiled brats you know will end up with silver spoons in their throats and cell phones in theie butts? hm, that also makes me think, i want my ringtone to be human flatulence. *ring/fart* oh, 'scuse me, that's mine.

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  • yes. but she's purty cool, though. and her hubby, too. not her "fault" that she has rich parents.

  • Im not one of those rich people but i wish i were sometimes.*sigh*

    PS

     

    I can tell that you dont really like bush so go on my profile and look at my left module. lol.

  • i totally agree with you.  people whine too damn much.  like that ashlee simpson song "shadow" where she literally whines about how her horrible her life is.  i want to smack that bitch upside the head.  ah yes, your life is so horrible.   you're beautiful, you're rich, your family can afford to have a stay-at-home mom. 

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