May 12, 2003

• It seems my previous response to:

  
  

  "why do people (both guys and girls) say it's ok to "see" someone else and when u do...they get all pissed off...but at the same time...they're doing the exact same thing. "

  
  

  was inadequate, so here goes...

  
  

  First of all, from my experience and observations, it's usually the girl more so than the guy who gets pissed off when the other party sees someone else (but I'll concede that for the time being).  The reason why guys get pissed off when a girl they're just seeing is seeing someone else is somewhat due to biological reasons.  You see, guys are often compared to dogs and like dogs, we can be territorial.  Although for obvious reasons, we can't go around pissing on every girl we hookup with, we want to know that the girl that we're hooking up with isn't hooking up with some other dog..er..guy, at the same time.  Why you ask? See my "eyedropper analogy" below. 

  
  

  Now as for girls however, here's where it gets interesting.  When a girl says they're totally cool with just "seeing" someone, they're totally lying.  It's because girls seem to have a problem detaching emotional attachment from physical interaction like guys can.  For girls, emotions and sex come hand in hand.  Perhaps it's the age old belief that a girl has to be wholesome that leads to this or maybe it's just a reflection of the insecurity that most girls have arising out of fear of social stigmas and self worth,  but it's very difficult for a girl to get physically involved with a guy without feelings eventually creeping it's way into the picture.

  
  

  Another possible reason? The undeniable sense of competition girls have with each other.  They can't stand the idea that the guy they're hooking up with could possibly be hooking up with another girl because it makes them wonder, "what does that bitch have that I don't have??"  Why do you think that "male bonding" exists but "female bonding" doesn't?  To demonstrate this, consider the following: Any guy can meet another guy for the first time, and they'll be totally cool with each other.  They can have a drink, bullshit, and generally get along.  Girls on the other hand, when they meet another girl for the first time, the only thing they're doing is sizing up their competition.  They'll immediately run to the bathroom with their gf to talk about how much makeup the new girl is wearing or how slutty the girl looks, etc.  For girls, it's all about competition.  Why else would they spend billions of dollars a year on makeup, clothes, shoes, bags, plastic surgery (where applicable)? It's certainly not for us guys! If it were, then it would be a hell of a lot easier for guys to hook up, wouldn't it? Let's face it, girls don't spend all that money trying to look good to make themselves more appealing to guys.  Cause as mentioned in my previous entry, it really doesn't take much for a girl to hook up with guy if she wanted to.  The real reason why girls spend all that money is so they can try to look better than other girls. 

  
  

  Cliff notes:  Guys are dogs and they don't like to dip their eyedroppers into murky waters.

  
  

  Girls are too competitive with each other and spend too much money on trying to make themselves better looking than they are.

  
  

  DISCLAIMER: As with anything, there ARE exceptions where the statements made do not apply to a particular person.

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